Thursday, December 23, 2010

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME! - 31 -40

NUMBER 31 - HEALTH I know that I take my health for granted. Having said that, as I age, I appreciate it more and more. For the most part, I feel good and enjoy doing stuff. I like being active and doing stuff. I'm going to keep "doing" stuff as long as I can. I hate the idea of a spectator mom. Thanks, God for my excellent health!

NUMBER 32 - FRIENDS- I am going to go back to the subject of friends. I am so lucky to have such great friends. Life is busy and I wish I had more time to be with my friends, but they are patient with me and it seems that when we get together, we just pick up where we left off! I have a couple of friends that frequently go out of their way to check up on me. They allow me to share my heart and they accept me just the way I am. I would name names, but they know who they are. From the bottom of my heart, thank you to my friends.

NUMBER 33 - It is easy to write about LINDSAY- I know that you will read this so I will just write this directly to you! You have grown to be a beautiful young woman and I am so proud of you. You have blazed the way for your siblings and taught us what being a parent is all about. I love your excitement for life. It's contagious. Spending time with you is so much fun. I always feel better when I have been with you! I love you.

NUMBER 34 - BJORK! You are an extra-ordinary young man. I don't know how you do it, but you have a genuine way of making EVERYONE feel good about who they are. You are one of the kindest and most accepting people I have ever met. Family gatherings are always more fun when you are around! There couldn't be a better role model for my two young sons. Thanks for loving our family. You rock!! :)

NUMBER 35 - MOST FOLKS ARE ABOUT AS HAPPY AS THEY MAKE UP THEIR MINDS TO BE -Abraham Lincoln. Another quote that I love! I think that our world has become very cynical and negative. We have become selfish and self-absorbed in our fast-paced lives. Don't get me wrong. I certainly do my share of whining and complaining. But really, the positive people in my life help me to keep a healthy perspective. Living a gracious and content life is something I am working on. I hope to be a person who helps others decide to be happy.

NUMBER 36 - SNOW - Ok. Most people are not very excited about all the snow we have had this month, but I love it! It is SO beautiful and clean. I love when it snows at night. It is the best time to go out for a walk. The crunch you feel under your feet and the quiet you hear is indescribable! It's awesome. One of God's most creative gifts!

NUMBER 37 - ADOPTION has changed my life! If you would have asked me about adoption 5 years ago, I would have said..."Nope. Maybe for someone else, but not for me." It has been a difficult transition for me but it has caused me to grow in ways I could never explain. However, I have absolutely NO regrets and feel so blessed to have adopted such great kids!

NUMBER 38 - WORK - I work seven days a week. But when people ask where I work, I say..."I am an administrative assistant at the high school in the Main Office". Doesn't really matter that I am only there for one day a week. It is simply the easiest answer to a question that I don't particularly like. The important part of this answer is that I LOVE where I work. I get to see lots of people that I wouldn't normally see and for the most part, they are REALLY, REALLY nice. I like my place of work!

NUMBER 39 - ROMEO- is such a delight! I remember meeting him for the first time in the Philippines. He had a big smile and was so excited about life. He volunteered to help me with something that no one else wanted to do. I liked him from the start! One of the first stories I heard about Romeo was about his compassion. It was Christmas and he decided to give all of his money to a family that was struggling. Very impressive for a young man who didn't have much himself. Romeo embraces life with gusto. I love watching him play sports and interacting with people. He gives it 100% and he is very real. Some days I am very sad when I think that I missed most of his childhood. My time with him will be all too short. Romeo is my oldest son! He is very easy to love.

NUMBER 40 - FOOD - For good or bad, I love all kinds of food. Need I say more?

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME! - 16 to 30

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME! 16 -to 30

NUMBER 16 - MINNESOTA SEASONS - I really do love living in Minnesota. I like the idea of four seasons. There is nothing like a beautiful summer day in Minnesota. I think of family vacations and happy times. Spring is great because you know that summer is coming! Fall marks the beginning of school and a new change of pace. Winter? Well, I do love a white Christmas and an occasional blizzard as well. Basically, we have it all here in the Northland...and I like it!!

NUMBER 17 - BERNIE - I would have to say that Bernie is my favorite dog ever! Our Golden Retriever, Emma was an awesome family dog too, but I would say that Bernie is my fave because he is MY dog. He was gifted to me at Christmastime from my family and I guess that everyone would agree that he loves ME the most! He has from day one! We have been through a lot together! He enjoyed watching Lindsay, Kristin and Steph grow up and willingly welcomed Roselyn, Romeo and Rodrigo into our family. He has been a constant friend to me as I have adjusted to three new children in my family. Bernie is always happy to see me and loves to snuggle up close to me. I will be very, very sad on the day Bernie goes. He was the best gift EVER. :)

NUMBER 18 - My mother-in-law is a very special person. Her name is JOAN. She is kind and gracious and always so accepting. I often wish I could spend more time with her because she is very wise and such a good listener. She has helped me understand the joys and struggles of being a physician's wife, an adoptive mother and a parent. I love that she is an accomplished musician. Very cool.

NUMBER 19 - JOHN MORK is Allen's dad. He also loves his family very much. I know that he was such a good role model for Allen when he was growing up. He works hard, graciously cares for the people around him and loves his wife. I believe that Allen chose medicine because he saw the passion his dad had for helping other people. I see many qualities in Allen that have been passed on from JOHN MORK. Thank you, JOHN for living a life of service.

NUMBER 20 - LAUGHTER - When our kids ask for Christmas or birthday ideas, I almost always reply - "I just want everyone to get along" It's true. There is nothing that makes me happier than hearing laughter of my children when they are enjoying each other's company. My parents used to talk about how important this was to them. I now understand. My prayer for my children is that they would look to each other for support as they move through life...and that they would truly love to laugh together. Maybe it is every mother's wish. It's mine.

NUMBER 21 - WORDS- I think words are interesting. How someone delivers their words can totally influence their meaning. Although I don't read enough these days, I really do like reading. I love quotes and sayings. I love reading something and seeing it in a brand new way. Carefully chosen words can heal and protect. Unkind words are so hurtful. I like the challenge of writing because I love words.

NUMBER 22 - MY SIBLINGS - My siblings are about as different as the day is long. From political views...to lifestyle choices...to occupations...to parenting styles - we are all across the board in our approach to life. In other ways, we aren't so different at all. We have a strong faith, we love our families and still make the effort to get together each year. It is getting more complicated as our families get larger. I am the baby of the family. I always will be. As I was growing up, I struggled to find my niche. I wanted to be respected in my own right in whatever I chose. I didn't want to do what my older siblings were doing. I wanted to find something that was mine alone. I think I managed to figure out my own path. More importantly, I am happy with who I am and where I am in life. I guess I didn't need to worry about finding my way. It just happened. To Susan, Nancy, Mark and Ellen. I don't say it often enough but... I love you very much! :)

NUMBER 23 - I love SLEEPING IN. Every day, I am summoned by the buzz of the alarm clock, the cries of Tucker waiting to be taking out and/or Rigo RUNNING to our bedroom. It is a rare occasion when I can just sleep until I wake up on my own. Just for the record, I like sleeping in, even if it means sleeping only until 7:00. It makes me happy!

NUMBER 24 - I was born on a cold, cold night on DECEMBER 21, 2010. My mom could tell that the time was getting close so she asked my Dad to bring her to the hospital. She was very tired as she hadn't slept well for days prior to the due date. She didn't seem to be progressing very fast so the nurse suggested a sleeping pill to help her rest. Next thing she knew, I was laying by her side. She slept through the whole thing. Go figure. I'm happy for her - sort of. It seems weird that you could deliver a baby while sleeping. Meanwhile, my dad had a chat with the pastor at their church. (At that point, they hadn't chosen a name for me.)Thinking out loud, he mentioned that since it was so close to Christmas, MAYBE Mary would be a good name for the baby. A few days later, Dad brought the church bulletin to my mom in the hospital. He showed her the section announcing the birth of Mary Jane Robertson! Oops. A little miscommunication, but it was a done deal and the name stuck. I don't mind at all that my dad and the pastor were responsible for naming me. I have always liked my name and it seems to fit ME.

NUMBER 25 - STEPH - I cannot believe that Steph will be leaving for college in about nine months. It will be weird not having her around the house and in some ways, I miss her already. The thing I appreciate most about Stephanie is her independence. She doesn't really like to be told what to do, but she does get things done. She is very capable and will have no trouble functioning in the adult world. Steph likes to fly "under the radar". She is very bright, very talented, very athletic...but never wants to be in the spotlight. I guess I might say that she knows who she is and what she is capable of, but doesn't need to prove it to anyone. She just is who she is. Steph reminds me a lot of myself when I was eighteen. I hope that our relationship continues to grow because I love her very, very much.

NUMBER 26 - POPCORN AND A MOVIE - Popcorn is a weakness for me. Wow! Set a giant bowl of popcorn in front of me and I will just eat it!...all of it! It is ridiculous and I am not proud of it, but I have no self-control when is comes to popcorn. Popcorn and a good movie WITH a friend or my family - priceless. Plus, if I'm eating, it is less likely that I will fall asleep during the movie - which I frequently do!! :)

NUMBER 27 - SHOPPING I hate to admit it, but yes, I do like shopping. I really try to keep a handle on it, but I think it is fun. I have an internal struggle with liking nice things and hating all the materialism I see in our culture. I'm not sure where the balance it, but I'm trying to figure it out. In reality, I don't get to shop much because I have no time. All in all, this is a good thing...but just for the record, yes, I do like to shop! :)

NUMBER 28 - BUCKET LIST - I haven't put a lot of thought into my bucket list, but if I were to start one, I would start with these three things.
1. I would love to tour Europe with Allen for about...a month.
2. I am in no hurry, but I would like to experience the joy of having grandchildren.
3. I would like to have a lake home where my family loved to visit.

NUMBER 29 - BIBLE STUDY I am in a Bible Study group that meets on Tuesday mornings. We have been meeting for many, many years. We are all about the same age and at the same stage in life. We laugh. We cry. We talk about our marriages, our kids, our health and our walk with God. We challenge each other, encourage each other and pray for each other. Of course we eat together - every week as a matter of fact!! :) Sometimes we even travel together. I am very blessed to have these supportive friends. They can relate to things that my kids or husband could never relate to. They understand. They are good friends for a girl to have! :)

NUMBER 30 - I asked for a "fashion" opinion to a young girl in the store today. Her reply?? "Well, the fashion THESE DAYS is to do this...," WOW!!! Talk about a slap in the face! These days?? Who did she think I was??? A 50-year-old woman who had been rocking in her chair for the last 20 years? Needless to say, I bristled at her response and felt a little offended. I mean REALLY!!! I HAVE been around the block a few times or so... I wasn't born yesterday!!! Well, maybe...that is the problem. Evidently...I am old...and even the clerk at the store knows it! I am counting this little story as NUMBER 30.

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!

I have reached a significant milestone in my life. At about 5 a.m. on December 21, 2010, I will be turning 50 years old!! Wow! Sounds kind of old. I don't really "feel" that old. Don't get me wrong. I am certainly experiencing symptoms of a person who is aging. I have aches and pains, I can't see or hear as well as I used to and I am definitely seeing changes as I look in the mirror. However, I AM the youngest sibling in my family and I am the youngest of many of my friends, so I have always thought of myself as the "baby". I'm not sure if that is good or bad. It just is. Having kids later in life has also made me believe that I am younger than I really am. I'm sure it will all catch up with me...and one of these days, I will feel like an old woman. All of this is to say. I don't feel like I should be 50 YET. Is that normal for most people? Oh well, I guess it doesn't really matter HOW I feel. The truth is...I AM 50 and being 50 has made me think about where I've been, who I am and what is most important to me. What a great time for me to share some of those thoughts. Here are 50 things that mean a lot to me. (I will post these 15 at a time.) They are in no particular order...they are just people and things that bless my life. Here goes...

NUMBER 1 - I know that I said that these are in no particular order, but the first thing, the first person that tops EVERY list EVERY time is my dear, dear husband, ALLEN. I cannot imagine life without him. What a gift to be married to my best friend. There is no one I would rather spend time with. There is no one I would rather talk to. Allen is kind, gentle, unselfish, and hard-working. Bottom line? He humbly lives out his faith every day...and leads our family with a quiet strength. I think he is very funny and fun to hang around! I am so proud of my husband and love living life with him.

NUMBER 2 - MUSIC Wow! I love music. It has played a huge part in my life. I remember waiting for the bus when I was a child thinking that..."If I could only listen to music all the time, I would ALWAYS be happy!" Probably not exactly accurate, but it was a good indication of how much I enjoyed it... even back then. I am thankful for all the years of piano lessons and flute lessons. It is very relaxing for me to just sit down and play. It is very personal and worshipful for me to express myself though music. Music is a beautiful gift.

NUMBER 3 - MOM - There are not many people in this world who can accomplish as much in a day as my 83-year-old mother. I am very blessed to have my mom. The thing I love most about her is her servant heart. I love that she volunteers and is always the first to make a casserole or cake for people crisis. She loves entertaining and welcoming new people into the fold. Most of all, my mom LOVES our family. She would do anything for any one of us. Any time, any place. I love my Mom.

NUMBER 4 - I LOVE CHRISTMAS! People often ask me if it is a bummer to have my birthday so close to Christmas. Really? I think it is SO, SO special. Everything is so beautiful when my birthday roles around. I was named Mary in part because I was born so close to Christmas and Jesus' birthday is just a few days later! How cool is that?? I do love the lights, music, presents, food and parties, but Christmas is so special to me... I guess because it is everything I believe in. It is about HOPE. :)

NUMBER 5 - KRISTIN - I had lunch with Kristin yesterday. I can't believe that she is going to be married soon! I love the gentle way she approaches life. She is easy to talk to and brings a certain calm to our family. So thankful for my daughter, Kristin!

NUMBER 6 - PETER - I remember Peter when he was still in a car seat. Even then, I thought he was such a nice, nice boy! I would have to say that NOW...He is a nice, nice young man! What I know about Peter is that he is hard-working and a man of integrity. I appreciate that he is so accepting of everyone in our family. It is obvious that he takes his faith very seriously and is seeking God. He reminds me of Allen in a lot of ways! Thankful for you, Pete!

NUMBER 7 - DAD - Everyone loves my dad. I run into people all the time that say, "Wow, I sure do enjoy your Dad!! He is quite a character!" It makes me smile and love him even more that I already do. He is a bit of a "loose cannon" but I've learned to just appreciate the quirky things that come out of his mouth! The thing I've learned from my dad is the importance of honesty and humility. He, also is a man of integrity. I could talk all day about my dad...because I love him so much. Even though he is well into his 80's, I see him as a source of strength and stability.

NUMBER 8 - TRAVEL - Hawaii, Italy, Philippines, Spain, Alaska, Arizona, the BWCA, California, Ukraine, Mexico, Israel, Wisconsin, the North Shore, etc... I love to travel and see the world. What a gift to have traveled to many, many places in the world. The best part is that I have been able to share them with people that I love-mostly Allen! I look forward to lots more travels and lots more adventures!!

NUMBER 9 - "NEVER, NEVER, NEVER GIVE UP" This is one of my favorite quotes. It is so simple, but profound. I have been encouraged with this quote many times when I was so ready to give up. It is on my refrigerator.

NUMBER 10 - PHOTOS - I have always loved the idea of capturing moments on film. A picture is worth a thousand words is true in my opinion. I can see a picture of our early years in Cambridge and know exactly how I felt at that particular moment. Pictures help us so see where we have been and how far we have come. It give us roots and a sense of belonging. We have many, many photo albums in our home. I am currently way behind in picture organization!! Maybe I'll get may act together one of these days and start creating digital photo albums! For now, I have thousands of pictures clogging up my computer waiting for a place to go!! :)

NUMBER 11 - RODRIGO - Having two sons has changed my life. Rigo and Romeo are all boy with lots of energy. Rodrigo is often the first one up in the morning. How do we know that? Because he RUNS up the stairs, RUNS to see Tucker, then RUNS to our bedroom to see if Allen and I are awake. He pretty much RUNS all day long until his pillow hits the bed. Rigo loves to DO things, GO places and HELP whenever he can. He is still figuring out the English language and frequently makes us smile with his cute expressions. A few weeks ago he said to me, "Mom, I hope you don't die!" My interpretation of that is "I love you, Mom" and I am honored that he wants me to hang around for a while. I love that he still sits on my lap in public and is free with his hugs and kisses. Oh, to think I might have missed out on this little boy of mine. I love Rigo.

NUMBER 12 - I grew up on a FARM. There were times (especially when I was a teenager) when I hated it. I felt isolated and cut off from the world. On the other hand, I did like the peace and quiet. I would go up in our barn and play with baby kittens for hours and hours...all by myself. I loved it!! Maybe that is why I like animals and quiet so much. I now consider my growing up years on the farm as a gift.

NUMBER 13 - RED - I love the color red. Pink, orange, purple...anything related to red is good too. Yep, I love the color red!

NUMBER 14 - Speaking of red, I had a horse named RED when I was growing up on the farm. I spent a lot of time just hanging out with Red when I was a kid. I rode her bareback everywhere I went - we didn't have a saddle. Sometimes I met my friends on their horses for an afternoon ride. What great memories! When I got to high school, I didn't spend as much time with her anymore. It was one of the saddest days of my life when I learned that my parents had sold her.

NUMBER 15 - TUCKER - Tucker is the name of our new puppy. I love puppies and better yet, puppy breath! He makes me think of the future and of many fun adventures with our youngest kids.

Stay tuned for 16 -30 and thanks for reading!! :)